The Importance of Sisterhood, and The Female Bond

I had a rather enlightening experience over the last two months that really brought to my attention something I honestly never realized so many women in my generation were kind of lacking until now. Let me explain as best I can the unspoken loneliness of generations past.

As many of you know, I am a small time creator on a public application known as TikTok. TikTok is a place where all different kinds of people from millions of different walks of life can come to create their own channels so to speak, making videos they want to put out to the world with their own brand of uniqueness. When I got involved with this app, I honestly did it because my kids were begging to dance on it, and because they had stars in their eyes, I obliged, and started an account to let them have some fun.

It wasn’t very long before I realized however, that TikTok was much more then an app for kids, but a strong nit, huge community of people sharing, laughing, suffering, and celebrating each other in the millions. I was utterly in awe at the vastness of it all, and honestly, I’ll admit, a little intimidated. Unfortunately, crisis hit our country, and the world with the pandemic and people were forced home for a very long year. In the year people were forced home, I watched TikTok go from being an app of mostly positivity and laughter, to an app of arguments, misery, and a lot of depression.

Then something positively incredible happened.

Sometime around Memorial Day of this year, a young man named William White (Whiteyy18 as he is called on the platform) exploded onto the scene of TikTok. Looking so much like a 80s heartthrob, and singing classic songs from an era long forgotten, William, within 2 days had turned thousands of women stary eyed in complete wonderment. Today, the gorgeous stunna is sitting at 1.8 million followers from around the world, is a signed model with one of the most exclusive modeling agencies in the world, and just wrapped up his first runway catwalk in Paris. I have no doubt, that William will continue to smash every goal he sets for himself, because he is a genuine spirit that remains loyal to his demographic, which is the women of Tiktok. Which brings me to the heart of my story, as William is only the architect in what happened in the blossoming of his career, the actual heartbeat behind him is something far more sensational.

In the wake of the phenomena that is William White, Women from several generations who had been blissfully unaware of their need for something to make them feel the thrill of being young again started coming together in the thousands. I can only describe it as the biggest flux in sisterhood I have ever had the privilege of witnessing, and being a part of. Mothers, Wives, Daughters, Grandmothers, of every race, political affiliation, and age group began making videos in support of their boy Whittey, and each other. It was like a virtual Lily Dale happening right before your eyes, but so much more intimate.

Some ladies preferred to see William as a cub they wanted to love and look over in a motherly fashion, Others were more inclined to see him for the heart throb he was, while others yet unilaterally saw him for the sex symbol he was on his way to being. Despite difference in perspective of view, these women began to work hard together to push William into the stratosphere of the TikTok community. From there, they once again came together to raise over $20, 000 dollars to the charity of AmfAR in a matter of days.

In the midst of all this, these women, who are represented by several different fan groups, all under the love, and appreciation of what William created in his positivity movement, started sharing stories of their lives, their struggles, marriages, lack of female friendships in their personal lives, and really embracing each other in a sisterhood that most were lacking in their core for a very long time.

I have had the brilliant privilege to be a member of one of these groups self proclaimed as William Whites, Grotto girls, or GGs as they affectionately refer to themselves as. Within this one group, I can honestly say, I have never in my life experienced a more welcoming, and loving female comradery. The fierceness,and sheer confidence these women exonerate has quite frankly, made me strive harder in my life to treat my own self with more love, and care. A feeling of self confidence has emerged that I was otherwise unaware I was lacking before I became a GG.

A common story I hear from the ladies of the grotto, is how alive they feel finding William, and each other. How not so long ago they had forgotten all about the inner young women they had once been before duty, and obligation took the place of carefree living. Now in finding each other, they are remembering their most preciously keep part of their souls, their womanhood, and letting her emerge once again to shine, and the light radiating through them all is brilliant to say the very least.

This whole experience has made me so humble in my relationships with other women, because I have a overwhelming sense of belonging that I can only describe to you as a place of safety, security, and non judgemental love. My eyes are very much opened to the need of females to have deep connection with other females. The bonds feed the soul in a way that nothing else really can. Not saying other things don’t feed a woman’s soul, its just a very different feeling when its amongst women who relate in ways you never dreamed possible.

So, in conclusion, I want to share my appreciation for Mr. William White,who undoubtedly brought thousands of women together with a wink, a smile, and a song. He deserves everything he desires to be made a reality in his life. I more so however, want to extend my blissful appreciation to the women I have had the privilege of connecting with, showing me the vast importance of a sisterhood family. It has changed my life and perspective, and for the opportunity to grow as a person i am forever grateful.