Self Dating and the Importance of Preservation
Sometimes it’s incredibly hard to be a mom. There are days for all of us like today where nothing you do is right, everything feels off, and you feel like your loved ones are looking down on you for your every failure. I completely understand what it feels like when life is literally beating you in the butt. Sometimes it gets so bad that you stop doing because, frankly, what’s the point of exhausting yourself only to come up short in the end from a goal or a task completion? Girl, you are not alone!
The average stay at home mom has more stress at home then the average 9 to 5er in most cases. Everyone is forever relying on you for every single direction, every task needing to be done, every moment of boredom becomes your duty to figure out how to turn entertaining. In the fray it is extremely easy to go onto auto pilot, and forget to make time to remember yourself. You become obsolete to the needs and wants and high demands of everyone else. It’s not done intentionally, most of the time your partner, family, and children are completely unaware that you are even feeling like this. You, in their eyes, are superwoman, and rightfully so, look at you! You’re a badass!
But even Superman had down time, and girl, so should you. I’m not talking the time you get going to the grocery store or to run an errand alone once a week, or when you finally get to use the bathroom alone in those few glorious moments before they realize you are in there. I’m talking about a self date. A self date is when you are literally away from you family, your home, your job, and your chaos. This is the key, the most essential ingredient to having a successful and healthy mindset to be able to handle your vigorous and very chaotic life.
Even if it’s a walk for an hour, going out to eat with just you, a library trip, or any other activity where you can nurture the parts of you that get lost in the fray of daily life. Having time to continue a relationship with yourself can have massive mental health benefits and to top it off, it’s super fun to spend time with just your awesome self too! So remember you, because without you right, nothing else goes right either.